I’ve always thought that it’s important in life, dating included, to listen to your dreams. Whether you believe in dream analysis or not, they can tell you so much about what your subconscious is thinking that you may not even be aware of.
So I had this dream last night about the guy I’ve been seeing. Wasn’t sexual or anything, but it was interesting none the less. He was teaching a computer class that a friend and I were taking. And it seemed like we had no idea about that when we got there. His roommate was assisting too (although his roommate wasn’t his actual roommate but another guy-who was also a cutie). He pulled me aside before the class started and said how we hadn’t talked for a while and he wanted to see me after class. And that we needed to make plans for that weekend. And that he had a camping trip planned in two months that he wanted me to go on with him.
While on the surface this seems like I’m just wanting the guy to call and set up the next date, dreams are often something deeper than that. For this, I’m assuming (I know what happens when I assume, you don’t have to remind me!) that my subconscious is telling me that I want the long term planning that occurs with relationships. Subconsciously I want to not only know that he likes me and wants to see me again, but that someone will like me to the point that they’ll want to keep seeing me again repeatedly. I like being secure enough in a relationship to not only make plans for that night, but also that weekend, or further down in the future.
The other part of the dream that I feel like it’s actually more interesting to note is that twice in a dream, a girl I didn’t know made snide comments about the way I looked. This first time it was that my eye was red and puffy and what was that about. And the second time she said something about the way my shirt looked and fit on me.
Now here is the part where this blog post takes a dramatic turn (are you ready for this?). I found this particular part of the dream relevant and thought-provoking because we spend so much time in society criticizing each other as women. And then dating gets involved and we get that much worse to each other! Why can’t we just be supportive of one another, both in life and in dating? If a guy you think is cute is kissing on another girl or flirting with another girl, more power to her for snagging such a cutie. Maybe he has a cute friend or cute brother. Do you really want to snag a guy who would leave the one he’s to go out with somebody else? You know he’ll do it to you if he did it to her!
Can we seriously just get real for a second and love and support each other as woman? If she looks great in that skirt, more power to her! If her makeup is on point, that should be awesome! Boobs look amazing in the top she’s wearing? At least somebody is well-endowed. But seriously, let’s focus more on loving one another as women instead of judging someone else for what we don’t have!